Menopausal mom to 2 young adult sons (one with ASD, ADHD, tic/seizure disorders and the other with attitude).

Monday, 12 January 2015

G's "Hiding Spot" has been Compromised!!

Look what we found in the corner cupboard over the holidays.

If you are new to Riley World here’s an explanation as to why we hide packages of Mr. Noodles. I can wait until you get back. Really. *whistling and twiddling fingers* 

The one and only difference between the boxes that G makes up and the ones from the store is the cello-wrapping. Minor detail right???  Baaahaaahaaa!!!

Now every so often Riley likes to throw us a curve ball. Life can chug along in Riley World for days, months and sometimes years and then…just when you think all is smooth sailing…BAM! All of a sudden he decides to change the rules. Fair enough. We do this to him all the time. But…but…WTH!!! 

When we first realized that Riley had discovered G’s hiding spot and starting putting flawed (in R’s eyes) packages in there too we were amused and even proud…sneaky monkey.

Until it…well…it got out of control. As in THIRTY (30) packages of Mr. Noodles out of control!!

G figured out that R was “hiding” only the reboxed packages and came up with the idea to remove the cello-wrap from the boxes as soon as we got home from the store so that all the boxes would look the same. Believe it or not…it worked!

As G and I get older our old non-energy efficient incandescent light bulbs are operating at about 40W at best so why he never came up with this idea sooner…your guess is as good as mine.  ;)


  1. There is another option: Stop catering to Riley's irrational whims.

    Tell your son he's been eating only 1 package of noodles a night for years, let him have a fit and repeat until the fit goes away.

    Parents complain about their spectrum kid's inability to change... after spending years catering to their whims.

    How many days of your life have you wasted hiding ramen noodles??

    1. Hi Sandra!

      I'm pretty sure we haven't met in real life and since I am new to ummm hostile feedback...perhaps you are a troll and a response from me is not required. I'm going to go a step further and assume that you are not a parent of a spectrum kid. But just in case, I will, respond that is.

      Having had only 15 years of personal experience I still look for suggestions and constructive criticism from others. Personally, I have found there to be a HUGE range of differing opinions out there on the interweb when it comes to autism. Much of it bothers me to the core. But…and there is always a but…people are entitled to their own opinion.

      However I was raised to be respectful of others and so when I come across an article, blog, or anything else on social media that irritates the hell out of me rather then continue to read or comment or follow I will click that little “x” in the top right corner of my screen and go about my day. I suggest you do the same and please feel free to block, unfollow or unfriend me.

      Buh Bye!!

  2. You are incredibly generous with your reply, D. My brain is ready to explode, but I will refrain from saying more, other than, Welcome to the Troll Club. <3

    1. I heart you too Kelly!!! Thanks friend!

  3. I wonder how many hours of life Sandra has wasted reading blogs for the pathetic thrill of making ignorant and obnoxious comments. Go back under your bridge, troll. Nobody cares.
    D- you keep it classy as always.

    1. Moi? Classy???? Oh you flatter me so. *blushing*

      <3 Beaverhausen

  4. WTF?!! What is WRONG with people. I'm NOT going for the classy angle when I point out that the above woman is clearly a moron; she can go pee up a rope, as my Grandma would say. (Though she'd never admit it in public). She also taught me if I haven't got anything nice to say, whisper. Posting nastiness isn't whispering.
    I am not the parent of a spectrum child. But I am a parent. And a good one at that. And I know that regardless of a child's "diagnosis", ALL children have needs that are "special". Maybe it's an extra few minutes alone at bedtime. Maybe it's getting to control the music when riding in the front seat. Maybe it's helping cook dinner or baking. And maybe it's keeping a secret stash of something that matters.
    Children need to feel secure and safe and validated and - Lord forbid - in control of something in their worlds.
    EVERY child finds those needs met in a different way. It's my job, as a mother, to ensure it happens. And I do. For all 6 of my kids.
    Riley and his amazing parents (and family) face many challenges every day, why not let him "win" once in a while if nobody is getting hurt? There are bigger fish to fry, higher hills to die on, wider rivers to cross, so go ahead and pick your battles wisely I say.
    So until you "walk a mile in my moccasins", (thanks Mom) you can STFU.

  5. at the risk of commenting on the comment, and not on the blog...

    There is a theory out there that if parents of autistic children were just stricter...then this "autism" thing would just disappear...that "autism" is really nothing more than willful children and bad parents mixing.

    What I love/hate about that approach is that it:
    1) Presupposes that the entire medical community is being fooled by bad parents.
    2) Autism can be "cured" by good parenting
    3) Autism is "caused" by bad parenting

    It doesn't so much "ignore" the data compiled by doctors/researches/ just...doesn't read them. Because in Sandra's world, autism is caused by bad parenting...if you were more consistent, if you spanked, perhaps, if you established boundaries...all the "symptoms" of this so-called "disorder" would disappear. And because Sandra lives in her world...there's no NEED for her to chase after additional data. Chasing after additional data is not Sandra's path. Her path is to look at your path and tell you what you're doing wrong.

    It is, interestingly enough, the EXACT same path I was on when I was 18, and muttered parenting advice sotto voce to friends when we were having pizza in a restaurant with unruly kids. It was only after I became a parent that I learned I didn't know everything about parenting. It was only after I became the parent of an autistic kid that I learned I didn't know everything about raising autistic kids.

    Ultimately Sandra's comment makes complete logical sense to Sandra...because she's never had to try to "establish boundaries" for days and days and days without any result. She's never had to attempt to apply "when he's hungry he'll eat" and watch her child slowly lose energy as day three of no eating moves into day four. She doesn't know what it's like to watch a child struggle the way our kids can at times. And I hope she never learns. I hope she remains ignorant of the truth of that struggle to the end of her days. I hope she lives in blissful ignorance and raises children of her own successfully without a struggle.

    But I also hope she learns that her path is not your path...and that you may just be a better judge of what works best on YOUR path.

    Finally...I hope that she learns not to be such a judgmental cunt. And I hope she passes that acceptance and empathy on to her children so that they don't also turn into judgmental cunts some day.

  6. You have arrived - you have a troll!!! And I shall be joining you in the bad-parenting corner with my 40w aglow. ;)

  7. Ah honey... I am so sorry someone leaked their stupid all over your blog. honestly, how do some people function when they go around spilling their brains out everywhere?

    to lighten things up a bit... is it wrong that I came running over here because I misread the title as "G Spot Compromised?!"
    I hope you didn't spit your wine my friend. :)
    keep being you. <3

  8. How clever and funny of R! Sorry about Sandra. What a teeny tiny individual she is.