Menopausal mom to 2 young adult sons (one with ASD, ADHD, tic/seizure disorders and the other with attitude).

Monday, 30 September 2013

Aging Out...

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What is Riley going to do now?

Have you thought about what Riley will do in the future?

Do you think Riley will ever be able to live on his own?

All valid questions.

Questions that I have thought about all too often yet have pushed to the back of my mind because it caused me to hyperventilate in years past. OK. I still hyperventilate.




Only now…we are there.  Or here.  Right now. *grabs brown paper bag*

Riley finished high school and turned 19 at the end of June. After 14+ years of ups and downs; forwards and backwards; challenges and successes in Riley World; we were all done. So we decided to take the summer off. A hiatus…sabbatical…if you will.

Then September came.

It has now been 3 weeks since what would have been the start of school for Riley. We are in the process of getting services/funding organized but this all takes time. In the meantime I decided we would work on his diet, some life skills at home, continue some type of work experience 2-3 times/week as well as community outings 4-5 times/week. It has been a change in our daily routine. A significant change. He is home full time and for safety reasons he can not be left at home alone. 

Something Different.  Not unusual in Riley World. We have been doing something different for over 14 years. Yet something WAS very different and I could not seem to put my finger on it.

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I am old. There. I said it.

OK so not old old. Just old enough that I am well…just tired. Not tired as in not enough sleep kind of tired like when he was little OR tired/exhausted from the emotional and physical roller coaster during the early years of Riley World. Just tired of doing stuff.

Last week I was sitting in a Transition Committee meeting with area school district personnel, representatives from community societies/government agencies and parent advocates. After the meeting was over I sat talking with a few of them. We decided that Riley and I are taking a “Gap Year” of sorts. Heck. Lots of kids took a gap year after high school. Right??

Yes. Yes…I liked it! I felt as if a load had been lifted. I felt refreshed. Ahhhhh...  

So for the next year I will be blogging about Our Adventures with Riley: The “Gap Year”!  Should be interesting to say the least.   :)


10 comments:

  1. My name is Rhonda and I am OLD as well. I am sick of planning, being excited FOR him and doing crap. This gap year thing.. may just last forever here lol

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    1. Hi Rhonda. Welcome. We are in this together girlfriend. :D

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  2. I have been feeling quite old and tired of doing stuff recently. I'm glad you all are in agreement that a gap year is in order. A gap week even sounds good to me. :)

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    1. I think I might know why in your case. Now they're gone...and I'm not talking about any kids. ;P

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  3. I like the idea of a "gap" year. I hope it is a little respite for you both!

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    1. Thanks D! Not sure about the respite part but at least the "pressure's" off...for a bit. :)

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  4. Sign me up for the *old and tired* club, will ya?! Honestly, it's TOUGH being so responsible for someone else's happiness... someone else's FUTURE. Right? Time for a breather. Bring on the Gap Year!!!

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    1. Wooo-hooo!!! Let's start a Gap Year Club!!!

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  5. Well, I turn 50 this year. FIFTY!! So, I get old. You and Riley need to do whatever it takes. You go this!

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    1. The big 5-OMG!!! You puppy! ;P Thanks Stacie!

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