J2 was in grade 5 or 6 and going for a walk or doing anything, for that matter, with your family wasn’t exactly on his top 10 list of things to do. It was a beautiful day and rather than have to listen to his mother (excellent decision on his part) he decided to go along with G and R.
When they got home J2 storms into the house grumbling “I’m NEVER going for a walk with them again! Talk about embarrassing!!” I apprehensively asked, “What happened?” J2: “It’s dad. He swore at someone.” Oish. Apparently a dog came bounding around a corner and jumped up on R. The following conversation ensued:
G: You know, you should really have your dog on a leash.
Lady: Well I really don’t have to. It’s an off-leash trail he doesn’t have to be on a leash.
G: Well that’s not really true. He has to be under control and he just jumped up on my son who
is afraid of dogs and has autism.Lady: Well maybe you should go walk someplace else then. To which G responded:
G: Well maybe you should just kiss my A**!
I know I shouldn’t have jumped to conclusions when J2 first stormed in the house. But I did. I guess the look of relief was pretty obvious to J2 as he asked me “Why? What did you think happened?” When I told him I thought maybe something happened with R, he gave me a look like why would I ever think that?!?!?
Now I’m pretty sure I’m not alone when I say as a parent, we all pretty much know there will be a time when anything and everything we do will cause our kids to be embarrassed. I wasn’t quite so sure if the same applied to siblings…specifically siblings with special needs. I realized then, much to my relief, the thought of being embarrassed by R had never crossed J2’s mind even at that age.
Thank goodness for brothers like J1 and J2!